Food and sex are gifts. Precious gifts that we cannot return, we control and prepare for their onset and termination. Pleasure and fulfillment are eluded with food and sex – our sensuality is tapped into. It seems as though nothing else exists beyond this enticing array of emotions when we partake. Some conclude these are the greatest joys of life. We use food to bond with our loved ones, and to provide us with energy in the finest way. Sex will take the relationship with the one you love to the next level. This euphoric, two-dimensional love is now made into a speechless unity when two choose to tie their relationship with sex. For some, this is in hopes to create an offspring that will spring into more love existing in the world. These events and actions are beneficial, necessary, and pure. We need them in order to carry through in the world. But can they also displace us from our own internal world? Whatever exists as beneficial and pure can play the role of harm and deception. Even with the best things in life, there is a fine line between perfection and destruction. Food and sex are manipulated, misunderstood, and can cause gruesome pain and a slow death. Those that everlastingly love them, are cursed the most.
Our relationship with food and sex is established when we first begin to expose ourselves to their pleasures. When this particular temporary emptiness strikes, we respond with dependence on external sources to satisfy our needs. After this urge is taken care of we subconsciously take note of what was done for our bodies and how we felt, the memory holds true as an experience. Our bodies should be silenced when that particular function is satisfied. Food and sex sustain life and life is gracefully meant to be pleasurable, but even when a gift is purposely pleasurable, its abuse leaves many forever fulfilling a deeper, unrelated internal emptiness.
War is declared when the need is met and the body is still calling for more, there are those who are unwilling to address the conflict and are left defeated, and many who don’t know they are facing an internal declaration of war. When food is the easiest grab to fulfill a vacancy unrelated to your stomach, and when lust masters the art of warming your flesh when, in truth, your soul is shivering, is when you are chained in the darkness but mistake it as light. “Our main concerns are those still nickels in the water that do not know they are lost”.
Although the issue of sex and food is not necessarily gender related, males and females respond differently. All sides are a victim of this war whether society wants to admit it or not. Women have needs just as viciously as men do and will answer to the cry of their bodies even if keeping it a secret will eat them alive. In most countries or cultures, the female indulgence of food or sex is frond upon. A women is powerless in the eyes of society if she is overweight or ‘promiscuous’ with her body. She is seen as someone who fell for the man’s trap; she let him take her purity, or is subconsciously letting him control the choices she makes. In reality, power is given; a woman will think she has no choice but to give power when the choice is all hers. If a female is trained to fear men because she thinks their actions dictate weather she retains her purity or not indirectly implies that a man has power over her, with no choice she has given him this power. Power is simply given as a result of a belief. Even if she refrains from letting him use his ‘power’ the idea is still embedded in her beliefs. The internal rage of a woman is very much present and real, but the engraved mentality we have grown into contradicts our instincts. Because of this, addictions to sex and food exist with women. As a result, secrets, injuries, and deeper pains evolve.
Men fight the battle of glory. Their glory comes from numbers; more food more women. The simplicity society gives men to practice their manhood might be a booster but it is not the only cause of the addictions prevailed. In truth, it is a deeply rooted disconnection from within. The battle of the number is war between the loud cheers of society and the loud cry of their hearts. This will lead to the war of tearing addictions.
I will not ignore the fact that human instinct can be filthy and deceiving. Whether humans are initially good fighting the bad or originally bad fighting to be good, we are always fighting for good and the forces of pain, deceit, mischievousness, and envy exist around us and within us. For both men and women, these actions are simple ways to cover the vacant reactions they might not even know exist. It is our duty to identify our potentially terrorizing intentions, and to live in peace – inside out.